I paid my debt, says Joost

2012-02-17 08:39
Cape Town - It's a refrain he keeps repeating: "I am busy dying. I'm a dead man walking. All I want, is to build a relationship with my children."

This is what former Springbok rugby player Joost van der Westhuizen said in an article in the latest edition of Huisgenoot in which he speaks about his demise due to motor neurone disease (MNS).

His speech and movement has already been affected and his close friend and partner, Quinton van der Walt, must now help him dress.

In addition to stem cell treatment and a course of heavy metal detox injections, he is also being treated by a biokineticist and a physiotherapist. He knows it will not stop the disease, but he hopes it will give him strength for a while longer.

'I now live my life fully'

On recent questions regarding how the finances of his J9 Foundation, which he established to help MNS patients, are being managed, Van der Westhuizen sayd he doesn't have access to a cent.

He makes several allegations about his wife Amor Vittone in the article.

The couple is divorcing due to a breach of "trust", among other things, when Amor toured through the country with other musicians in 2005.

The sex video in which he appears with another woman was, according to him, filmed in 2006 when he was in a "very dark place" in his life.

About people who are still judging him, he says: "If I sit and brood about what every person out of seven billion people say about me, I'll die tomorrow. I know what's going on in my heart. I now live my life fully. If I want to have a drink, I do it. If I want to sleep, I sleep. If I want to go visit friends, I do that. I am not going to sit in a corner and die.

"I don't give a damn what people say about me. I am tired of the fact that my life is being determined by society. I paid my debt."

Watch Huisgenoot's exclusive Afrikaans interview with Joost here:

 

Comments

  • zane.blignaut - 2012-02-17 09:06

    Joost.. you may not have been the best husband, but you were fantastic on the field, and that's the Joost Ill remember, I wish you all the best in these difficult times. Yes you have paid your debt!!! to me you are making your wrongs..right again,

      Bryan - 2012-02-17 13:05

      Still a legend in his own right.. He has paid his due's.. leave him the hell alone!!@Vernon.., you chop!!!

  • Maria - 2012-02-17 09:10

    There are 2 sides to every story. Amor and Joost were not the match made in heaven. Move on and stay friends for the sake of the children. I feel sorry for Joost. Woman are so vendictive.........

      Bruce - 2012-02-17 14:52

      Even if a match was made in Heaven, it still has to be lived on earth.

  • raymond.cowley - 2012-02-17 09:17

    I wonder how these people that continue to judge Joost will do if they are put to the same trials & challenges that was and still is. Usually these judgemental people do worse and, if a closer look be taken at their lives, have done even worse to lesser trials & challenges. If someone realises the error of his/her ways and make amends, who are we to judge them. Are these "judges" above making mistakes??

  • Tertia - 2012-02-17 09:27

    Thousands of individuals and couples go through the same "scandals" as Joost did - unnoticed. But because Joost is a public figure, society stones him! We all have stuff in our lives kept hidden! Amore was not innocent either. Leave these people alone, give them their privacy now. Let Joost live the life that has left, which is a stuggle everyday due to his condition, in peace. Like he says, he just wants to spend it with his kids as much as possible. With the same measure we judge, we will be judged.

      Fred - 2012-02-17 10:43

      If you cosy up the media to enhance your reputation (and increase your marketing value) and are then to be found to have feet of clay then you deserve what you get - pilloried.

  • Claire - 2012-02-17 09:32

    Never mind what I think about the lying cheating bastard... and hats off that he doesn't let what others think about him affect him, but I wonder if he ever cared about what his kids would think!! If he is intent on moving on why is he still bleating and bitching (about his wife) to the media??

      Maria - 2012-02-17 10:38

      Maybe Amor was a fantastic mother but a difficult and unloving wife. Why is it the men are always seen in the bad light. Everyone makes mistakes. Amor just wasn't prepared to forgive him and give Joost a second chance. (When you down and out, everyone wants to screw you...)

      Matthew - 2012-02-17 12:24

      Because Huisgenoot pays handsomely for these stories, they appeal to the Cardies buying, MNet soapie watching, sunday morning kerk & skinner demographic.

      trix.duvenage - 2012-02-17 16:38

      @ Fred, Claire and all those who are harsh on this poor guy: Joost is a human being. The fact that he is a celeb does not change the fact that he is flesh and blood. Any one of you that has no sins what so ever, or no sceletons in the coffin.... throw the first stone. BUt then also remember, there will come a time in your life where you will be realising that man is NOTHING! We are all but a sceleton with flesh and a skin around us. Everybody is vulnerable and everybody is prone to fail some time or the other. I bet not even one of these harsh critics have ever been in contact with MND. The fact that Joost was unlucky enough to pick up/develop this desease means he is one of a very few people to suffer the most horrible desease ever on the planet. My heart goes out to him as I have had experience with someone who died of MND. All you critics: Go on your knees and thank your God that you still have the use of your limbs. Thank Him that you can move about freely and that you can help yourself with all your daily activities. I will not wish this desease on my greatest enemy and I do not care what ANYBODY has done wrong in my eyes, I will NEVER EVER kick him /her while they are down in this particular manner.... MND is directly from hell and No person on this planet can do enough wrong to deserve MND. Joost....may God be with you and I think you are a star to even speak up in public, let alone having long conversations.

  • Nita - 2012-02-17 09:39

    I sat next to Joost and Amore at breakfast once in a hotel, the way they treated each other was so beautiful, it was not fake beacause that kind of love in each others eyes can not get faked, how sad that my beautiful picture and memory is now no more...

      Heiku - 2012-02-17 13:25

      Must have been kinda weird for them with you staring at them.

      Matthew - 2012-02-17 15:24

      big lolz @Heiku :)

      colin.chester1 - 2012-02-17 17:24

      Heiku, you made my day. I am still laughing.

  • magomarele - 2012-02-17 09:47

    Eish, I feel for him. It could happen to anyone. Like everybody who's terminally ill, he needs our support and prayers.

      Fred - 2012-02-17 10:46

      We are all terminally ill - all that is relative is the expiry date.

      Joe - 2012-02-17 13:13

      A beer to Fred coming right up. Well said mate

      Fred - 2012-02-17 14:10

      And in what way will prayers help? Just asking.

  • Daniel Van Wyk - 2012-02-17 09:50

    Joost, jy bly nogsteeds n MASJUUUUN!!!!! Bid vir jou!!!

  • Rebaone - 2012-02-17 10:02

    Ag shame! Atleast you have accepted your life as it is and its true that oyur life should not be determined by society because society also has done some wrongs in life of which we are not judging them for.

      trix.duvenage - 2012-02-17 16:45

      @ Fred. If you know what a prayer means and how to pray then you will understand that a prayer heals YOU. Your brain absorbs the prayer and it calms you down when you realise that you have placed the problem in the hands of God your Creator. But one day, if you ask me nicely, I will explain the psychological meaning of a prayer to you and then you will also understand the Bible and the service to God. REligion is something else.

      trix.duvenage - 2012-02-17 16:46

      However FRED: If God decides it is your time, He will take you no matter how many pray for you. The VETO vote when it comes to your end still lies with HIM.

  • liezel.wolfaardt - 2012-02-17 10:02

    We all make mistakes and have faults. Let the person with Zero mistake pic up a stone an throw first... Its sad to see that when ppl have everything they OK when they go down u do it alone. Let the past stay in the past and let NO human play GOD.

      Claire - 2012-02-17 11:03

      Wish Joost would follow you advice and "let the past stay in the past"!! Wish he'd find a new tune to play!!

      Fred - 2012-02-17 12:15

      I am human and I am my own god. Except for Zeus of course.

  • Tariq - 2012-02-17 10:09

    Ag shame poor joost...oh wait no my care cup is empty.

      Bryan - 2012-02-17 13:08

      What a heartless comment... I wish the fleas of a thousand camels would infest your genitals and hope your fingers turn to fish hooks...Moron!

      Irma - 2012-02-17 14:29

      That's uncalled for. What's your problem? If you aren't interested, move along without commenting.

  • bianca.m.attieh - 2012-02-17 10:23

    come on everyone, we all make mistakes that we regret, unfortunately people seem to forget we all human, stop judging him. if he dies tomorrow everyone will have nice things to say about him, why not start now with positive thoughts and speeches to help him through this. he was a great rugby player and did our country proud.

  • Brenda - 2012-02-17 10:25

    Amor is the last person to point a finger. I know them personally and she is not the ange she wants people to believe. Joost there will always be people critisizing you and like the minority who commit crime in SA they do not represnt the large majority. You are and will always be a legent to most of us.

      cheryl.kristiansen - 2012-02-17 10:59

      @Brenda. Wonderfully put. Why must we kick this man when he is down? He played fantastic rugby and that is what counts. Lots of people I talk to don't care about his private life. Most say "shame that this should happen to such a great player" That is all this should be about, not his love life, we don't know what life with eitehr of them is like. Joost.....RESPECT for the way you played rugby!!!!

  • Gary Zwanepoel - 2012-02-17 10:28

    Jooste jy bly 'n legend this they cannot take away from you!

  • Ruth - 2012-02-17 10:30

    Between you and Whitney Houston, boring!!!

      Fred - 2012-02-17 10:44

      Yes! But isn't amazing how so many people are in awe of these flawed characters.

      Bryan - 2012-02-17 13:11

      Not looking very exciting yourself Ruth... Old hag!

      Fred - 2012-02-17 14:12

      @Bryan Fantastic comment! You must have worked hard to develop the thought.

      Mouldy - 2012-02-17 14:16

      "Life is not about how much you know it's about how much you care" That's from your F/B profile Ruthie, think you better change it to something more appropriate, like: "I don't give a hoot, as long as I'm ok"

  • letitia.pelser - 2012-02-17 10:31

    Joost, ek is sal sal altyd een van jou "Fans" wees jy is nog steeds sexy en maak nie saak wat in jou lewe gebeur het nie, niemand maar niemand is foutloos en perfek nie. Ek is nog steeds lief vir jou. Ek bid dat God jou in sy hande sal vou, jou sal troos en jou sal vertroetel. Lewe jou lewe soos jy wil. Na al die gamors verdien jy om na jouself te kyk. Lovies uit New Zealand.

      Klipkop - 2012-02-17 11:40

      hahahaha you just like his blue eyes, once a cheater always a cheater. It is anti-God to cheat and sort coke.

      Klipkop - 2012-02-17 11:42

      ..snort..

  • ludlowdj - 2012-02-17 10:43

    Joost, you already know that people will talk and point fingers until the day you die, and will continue to talk long after you are dead, Accept it and get on with your life. It is not your place to decide when you have paid your debt its the place of other to make that decision. As long as you forgive yourself and live to the best of your ability your conscience is the only thing that can really point a finger at you, nothing else matters.

  • Amanda - 2012-02-17 10:52

    Joost You ROCK. Your forgiveness is only with the Lord so you have made your peace with him and that is all that matters. The legacy you leave behind for your kids as a FATHER far out weighs the legacy you leave as a sports star so live every moment for those kids and your loved ones and just know that not all your fans have fallen with you many of us are still standing tall and strong to carry you as our Hero. Alles wat goed is vir jou en jou kinders. God Bless. All My Love Your super crazy freak FAN:)

  • Esther - 2012-02-17 10:58

    Joost, ek het my ma versorg tot op haar einde, sy het ook MNS gehad. Ek het 'n goeie idee waardeer jy gaan, en dink dat dit vir jou as man nog erger moet wees. Jy moet ophou stress oor wat ander se, wees selfsugtig en dink NET aan jouself en jou kindrs. Baie Sterkte vir die pad vorentoe! Esther

      Fauzy - 2012-02-18 20:50

      Well said Esther

  • cheryl.kristiansen - 2012-02-17 11:10

    After listening and watching that piece of interview is sounds like he is a lot more bitter about Amor than the article portrays. I feel for the man, his clock is ticking and he just wants to be with his kids. She should give him as much access as the children want. It is about them after all. We cant judge her on her feelings about Joost but this is about the kids, not her or him. And to hell with what anyone says, I AM judging her on that. Her children must be in pain too.

  • endikavdwalt - 2012-02-17 11:15

    Sterkte Joost. Amor, die voorbeeld wat jy aan jou kinders stel deur hul pa te behandel soos wat jy besig is om te doen, is verkeerd! Jyself was nou nie juis 'n engel nie en (en ek praat geensins goed wat hy gedoen het nie) nou behandel jy hom soos die duiwel. Ag nee wat, Joost is beter af sonder jou in elk geval. Met jou optrede is jy besig om mense af te stoot.

  • Rozelda - 2012-02-17 12:01

    The past is the past live for the future!

  • Alta - 2012-02-17 12:07

    Why do they keep running to Huisgenoot?! These people just don't know how to live a private life. They keep complaining about being judge etc, but they just cannot keep away from Huisgenoot and Rapport.

      Karolina - 2012-02-17 13:17

      Spot on - they ask to be left alone but they flaunt their lives in Huisgenoot knowing that all the readers will be clicking their tongues and 'ag shame' ing - Amore will no doubt sell her side of the story... Geez - then they complain when people judge...

      Ally - 2012-02-17 13:52

      To Alta and Karri: Joost and Amor thrive on publicity ... if it weren't for Hisgenoot et al they would be largely forgotten and ignored by the public. They crave the limelight, but it comes at a cost to their credibility, integrity and most of all their children are caught in the crossfire.

      trix.duvenage - 2012-02-17 18:11

      Alta....al ooit daaraan gedink dat dit die "SENSASIE SOEKENDE" Huisgenoot is wat mense nie alleen kan laat in hulle elende nie. Huisgenoot is berug daarvoor dat hulle moeilikheid soek om te publiseer en hule is verantwoordelik vir menige huwelike van celebs wat in die skeihof beland. Alles bloot omdat Huisgenoot verkope najaag.... Dan natuurlik is daar die meer positiewe noot naamlik dat Joost 'n hulpfonfs vir MND begin het en hierdie tipe van 'sensasie' het ook meriete vir so 'n fonds. Ek kan dit nie genoeg beklemtoon dat MND 'n ONBEKENDE siekte uit die hel is wat mense basies AFTAKEL totdat daar niks van hulle oorbly voordat hulle ophou asemhaal nie. As enige iemand wat hier lees 'n paar sent kan spaar, help asseblief Joost se fonds[ hy kry niks daarvan nie, hy probeer ander lyers net help] of as julle soos 'n paar gatgoggas op hierdie forum voel en Joost wil bly VEROORDEEL: Ondersteun die Suid Afrikanse assosiasie vir MND [soek hulle op Google] en skenk geld vir hierdie mense. Elke sent sal sekerlik help en glo my maar: Ons hulp kan dit baie makliker maak vir hulle. Hulle het niks om verder voor te leef nie en hulle bewegings word erger en erger gestrem by die dag. Daar is apparate wat hulle baie kan help maar die goed is baie duur en enige hulp word verwelkom. So.... asseblief, maak julle hande oop vir hierdie mense....

  • Phillip Coetzee - 2012-02-17 12:07

    Where is his friends now? When everything went well it probablly was a hustle and bustle. Life full of friends and when hardship hits the friends also dissapear like mist in front of the sun.....stay strong now you will see who's your real friends.

      Lynn - 2012-02-21 21:08

      She moved on to catch the next married anus on camera..

  • anthea.stark - 2012-02-17 12:15

    Joost no one is perfect and having lost a very precious dad to MNS, I hope you focus on the important stuff...the Lord will use you in this x

  • Hendrik - 2012-02-17 12:54

    I don't know how any of this "Life" stuff works...and anybody who claims to have the truth...Are you sure your Truth is ocncrete? I know the religious amongst us are shaking their heads now....We are born (None of us had any say in terms of race/creed or ability) we live our lives the way we see fit, and then we die....Is there a higher being that directs every second of Billions of lives on earth as we Journey? Do we get punished when we do not "submit" and beg for forgiveness?... I will remember Joost as the Best number 9 the world has ever seen ! I salute you Joost ! I do not believe you had a hand in bringing about MND - Life happens !

  • Dreyer - 2012-02-17 13:22

    Nobody is perfect

  • Tilly - 2012-02-17 13:31

    Was Amor as innocent as she's making it out to be? She should not use their children as "canon fodder". Children are innocent and they love both parents. His journey is painful (more than hers) and she is reflecting her nasty, vindictive and cruel side. Joost you deserve to be forgiven just as we all want to forgive and be forgiven when in a bad situation. No-one is as picture perfect as they make out to be. Some big mouths here making a lot of noise so one can only guess that they are standing behind the door themselves.

  • Wim - 2012-02-17 13:33

    I do feel sorry for him.Joost was fired by Naspers owned Supersport who was too moral to associate with Joost's infidelity. The same company paid to publish the material gained from the prostitute and her accomplice who admitted setting a trap to bribe Joost.On this occasion morality suddenly played no part. Joost's act was moment of foolishness. The latter was committed premeditated by lowly scum. No I'm not a Bulls supporter, in fact I wasn't even a fervent Joost fan.

  • emoneyvalu - 2012-02-17 14:37

    Let the man be. Let he without sin cast the first stone. As for Amor so eager to carry on with her life she wants to divorce him when he is dying. thats pathetic

  • Irma - 2012-02-17 15:31

    It's going to end up like another Hansie story- everyone is a judge now but when he dies they are going to mourn a legend. No one is perfect, when are people going to realise that?

      Lynn - 2012-02-21 21:05

      Hansie WAS a legend.... Nuf said

  • Marius - 2012-02-17 15:55

    So Amore is die vark in die verhaal. Ons sal seker nooit werklik weet wat tussen die 2 verkeerd gegaan het nie.

  • Alet - 2012-02-17 17:18

    weet almal wat 90 persent mense het geraamtes in die kas los die man uit dat hy sy lewe kan lei, wat hy doen en maak en niks met niemand te doen nie - mag jy elke dag net beter en beter word, glo en vertrou daar is iemand groter en sterker as enige siekte - bly net glo ....sterkte

  • Ivan - 2012-02-18 11:33

    Joost Dude. Staan sterk en my gebed gaan uit na God vir jou, die kinders en Amor. Ek het jou verskeie kere in ons losie op Loftus othaal en jy is/sal 'n legende bly in BAIE mense se lewens.

  • Mona Grant - 2012-02-18 11:36

    "Let he who is without sin, cast the first stone". There are always 2 sides to a story. It takes 2 people to make a marriage work and 2 people to let it fail. I find it appauling how his wife uses the kids as ammo and leaves them with her parents instead of with their Dad. That is just shocking. No matter how much he hurt you- you chose to have kids with him and he will always be their earthly father!

  • Fauzy - 2012-02-18 20:46

    Why can't they just leave him in Peace.Its a cruel world out there He needs all the support and encouragement not stones being thrown at him My family and I have been down that road with my late husband and their father. Please give him the love and care that he needs

  • Hennie - 2012-02-20 10:44

    Leave the Man Alone , he has enough problems as it is , and i feel for Him.Hope Joost is with us for a long time.

  • omilanzi - 2012-02-20 13:06

    people leave Joost the hell alone who are you to judge him,let him be.

  • Leonard - 2012-02-20 14:23

    Huisgenoot is no longer a family magazine. It has turned into a sordid tabloid that survives on perpetuating misery. I refuse to have that gutter quality magazine in my house. Thanks for all the misery Huisgenoot (perhaps you should find out wat the title of your magazine means)

      Lynn - 2012-02-21 21:02

      Same as its sister mag - the YOU.....

  • hanlie.noeth - 2012-02-20 20:31

    Why then is he selling his story left, right and centre? Living your life in full means not to dwell. Amor and Joost are quick to sell their stories, but just as quick to say people shouldn't judge or that they don't care what other people think. Blah, Blah, Blah...

      Lynn - 2012-02-21 20:59

      WAIT, in about 3 months time there will have been either: A Miracle from God, or Miracle medicine...... WTF. How much longer will these 2 Z-Listers carry on. The Beckhams of South Africa. LMFAOROFL.....

  • Caroline - 2012-02-21 08:35

    What Amor is doing is not right. Does she actually know the impact that she can have on the children!!

  • Charmaine - 2012-02-21 15:18

    Every human has the right to repent and mend their conducts. God knows best.

  • Rwesi - 2012-02-23 14:19

    after all no matter what Amor says she used you, you money and popularity. i still remember her competitions with patrica lewis. live your life the way you want!

  • ydpreez - 2012-03-01 00:25

    let the one who has never made mistakes in their lives judge.....therefore no man can. DONT THROW STONES...IF WE AS A NATION STAND TOGETHER AND PRAY FOR JOOST HE HAS A MUCH BETTER CHANCE OF BEATING THIS THING..LET US NOT FORGET THAT WITH GOD ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE...NOBODY CAN KNOW IF OR WHWN SOMEONE WILL DIE...A CAR ACCIDENT OR ANY OTHER DISASTER COULD KILL HIM TOMORROW..INSTEAD OF MOPING ON HIS PAST LETS BE PILLARS TO HIM..HELP HIM TO FIGHT THE FIGHT OF LIFE...FOR THE SAKE OF HIS FAMILY AND EVERYONE WHO LOVES HIM....JOOST..GOD BE WITH YOU AND NEVER LOSE YOUR FAITH......MANY ARE PRAYING FOR YOU...AMEN TOO ALL

  • Susan - 2012-03-05 23:07

    Hi Joost, Jy is n Pragtige mens. Laat die een sonder foute die eerste klip optel. Ou Vriend wees Sterk ons dink aan jou moet nie dat media en mense jou onder kry nie! Sterkte met jou Siekte en alle beproewinge. JY SAL ALTYD ONS JOOST BLY WARE BLOUBUL. SUSAN

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