Advocate Barbie's mom writes tell-all

2011-08-16 22:16
Philip de Bruin
Johannesburg – The "dark depths of sexual sadism" that Cezanne Visser, also known as 'Advocate Barbie', dabbled in is now coming to light in a new book written by her mother, Susan Lemmer.

The book also delves into the "deceit, exploitation and manipulation" during Visser’s remarkable relationship with Dirk Prinsloo, who is now serving jail time in Belarus on robbery charges.

The book has just been released.

Ek wil hê jy moet weet: sy is steeds my kind (I want you to know: She is still my child) deals with the dramatic events that occurred in Lemmer and her daughter’s life over the past 10 years.

Secret sex life

Visser and Prinsloo were both practising attorneys when details about their secret sex life were exposed. This eventually led to one of the most extraordinary hearings regarding sexual misconduct and the production of child pornography in recent years.

After Prinsloo fled the country, Visser was found guilty in the Pretoria High Court on 11 counts and sentenced to seven years imprisonment.

In the book Lemmer speaks of the "hell" she had to go through because of the bad choices her daughter made. She is also honest about the mistakes she, too, is guilty of making.

"I merely want to tell (in the book) the story of what happened, because to know, is to understand."

In the book Lemmer publishes a letter written to her by Visser from jail. In the letter she writes: "I should have heeded the red light – warnings, I should have listened to you, but I didn’t. The prayer of my heart is that you will forgive me..."


  • Angel - 2011-08-17 06:21

    Trying to make money off of the sordid behavior of her daughter! I don't believe she 'wants to tell her story' , I think they're just using the opportunity. Please ppl don't fall for this, don't buy this woman's book.

      DirtyDog - 2011-08-17 07:52

      You obviously do not have kids. If by any slim chance you do, God help them! There is a saying "blood is thicker than water", as Met commented, she is the model of a mother. Admitting your child has a problems, but being there to try and pick up the pieces - that is the calling of a true parent.

      Willem Louw - 2011-08-17 08:15

      during a trial like this it is very easy to cast an individual in a 1 dimensional view. This mother is trying to tell the other side of the story, and trying to reverse some of the perceptin and damage that has befallen her family. Its an attempt to regain dignity and tell the world that there is another side to her daughter. The crimes were inexcusable, but that woman was to a certain degree a victim her self. She's paying for her crime. But in a couple of years she will be released and then has to move on with her life while the whole world watches and judges. This mother is laying the foundation for recovery, healing and mvoving forward. She's doing what any parent will do if that was their child. Dont blame her, she didn't commit the crime. But every1 is looking to her asking, how she could have raised such a monster. judgement should be reserved for those who are without faults....

      preshengovender69 - 2011-08-17 10:37

      she has to make money it the recession

      Angel - 2011-08-17 10:39

      Wether she was a good mother or not I still don't believe in making money off of this story. That's my point. Yes it is awful for the mother to know what her daughter has done but it is even worse for the poor kids that were put through that hell. And no I Would not wish that on any mother, I can only imagine how difficult it is. I am sure no mother would ever choose such behavior for their child.

      Angel - 2011-08-17 10:48

      And by the way, why do u say god help my children? Because I wouldn't choose to write a book about our struggles if we had any? How do u know what I would or wouldn't do for my kids? There's no need to be disrespectful.

  • Met - 2011-08-17 06:41

    To me, this woman, was a picture of a true mother. With the press focussed on the daughter, she never missed a court hearing and I can imagine the humiliation that went with it. But she stood her ground-a true picture of a mother

  • Johannes Viljoen - 2011-08-17 08:03

    But any other mother of the tons of other criminals in this country feel humiliation, what make this lady different? For the sake of our kids who just want a normal life, don't make this Barbie girl the HERO! Why not write a book about one of the victems??? Why not tell their story? Can you imagine a kid who has already lost too much and is subjected to this sickness? What hope does the said kid have for its future, write their story and give the proceeds of that book to orphans, I WOULD BUY THAT BOOK!!!!!!!!!

      Willem Louw - 2011-08-17 08:24

      its not as black and white as you make it. Barbie isnt a hero, and did horrible things. She was to a degree a victimc 2 if you followed the trial. That Dirk dude is a piece of work... I cant imagine the horror their victums must feel, but they are free to write a book about it two someday. Barbie's trial got a lott of media attension, not all rapists have well publised trials. She didn't ask for the spot light. She and her familly suffered a very public humiliation and she and her familly have been tarred with the same brush, by assosiation. She's trying to clean up the mess her kid made, like any normal parent would do. Give her break, in 10 years one of the victims will also write about it and go on Oprah and tell her sad story in an attempt to market their extraordinary recovery, and reccolection there of. I thInk the mother is acting in a pretty predictable way and in a very dignified exceptable way. The the title of the book again....

      mariana.barry - 2011-08-17 12:20

      not all crim-mommies can read & write

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