Joost: Amor can't wait for me to die

2012-08-06 08:23
Pretoria – Former Springbok captain Joost van der Westhuizen says his estranged wife, singer Amor Vittone can't wait for him to die.

Van der Westhuizen said this during an interview broadcast on Ballz Radio, in which he said Vittone saw him as "the enemy", reported Beeld.

Van der Westhuizen, who was suffering from motor neuron disease, was apparently talking with difficulty and at times, was hard to understand.

He commented on allegations that he was dragging his heels in finalising the divorce but said he was unable to meet the financial demands made by Vittone.

"I can't anymore give everything that Amor wants."

"I have no hidden agenda as to why I haven’t signed the settlement. I am simply forced to negotiate more due to my illness."

In an interview with Heat magazine, Van der Westhuizen apparently said he was happy to have contracted the terminal illness as he now knew where he came from and no longer was the man he used to be.

Vittone said she would not comment on what Van der Westhuizen had said.


  • Jacques - 2012-08-06 08:40

    Can't help but feel for the guy. Once such a world-class athlete, now this... His personal stuff and life choices aside, it's not cool to hear this. I hope Amor and Joost settles soon so that Joost can focus on his health.

      riette.nothling - 2012-08-06 11:27

      Susan, a man who doesn't want to be stolen won't be stolen! It takes to do the tango.

      sandra.j.rennie - 2012-08-06 11:57

      I can't imagine how she stole. When during the night while he was sleeping with wife number one. As far as I am concerned he went to Amor voluntarily ! Joost you made your bed, lie in it ! Takes 2 to Tango. Hope you have lots of life policies for Amor and the Kids.!

      klippies.coke.7 - 2012-08-06 12:17

      I'm honestly gatvol for this drivel. He left his first wife for Amore, she should have known at that stage that he is a player, and I mean off the field. They both made mistakes and I feel sorry for the guy that he has a terminal illness, but f!@# it man, when you die do it with dignity, stop badmouthing your EX, regardless if she deserves it or not. Keep your personal life personal.

      grant.callaway.50 - 2012-08-06 13:59

      @klippies - nail on the head, dude! Amor would have known the guy's sense of loyalty right in the beginning. Right or wrong, you play with fire, you get burned. And as for Joost - the constant bad-mouthing of his ex (warranted or not) also shows where HIS priorities lie in his final days... So silly!

      lauren.myburg - 2012-08-06 14:18

      I am so sick of hearing about these people and their dirty laundry that I wont even buy a magazine or newspaper if I see either of their faces! They have truly trashed both their reputations!

      ina.cripps - 2012-08-06 15:22

      You are right Amor, treat it with the contempt it deserves. While we are all sorry that Joost has contracted this disease, this statement really smacks of self pity.

      gustav.preller.75 - 2012-08-06 15:22

      Do we really care?

  • dhirshan.gobind - 2012-08-06 08:42

    joost, forget her!!! to us you will always be a legend!!! 1995!!! we don't care what you did in your personal life!!! all hail joost!!!

      betsy.dorris - 2012-08-06 12:23

      agree! To the haters: have none of you ever made a mistake? what would people say of you if every little detail of your life was broadcast? yes, they shouldn't have broadcast their personal issues in the public, but the fact is that this guy is going to suffer in a horrible way and one day be trapped in a body with full mental ability but not being able to move a muscle. i think that is more punishment than he deserves. think about that before posting your comments.

      nick.armstrong.1800 - 2012-08-07 14:40

      Dhirshan - well said! Thank-You for pointing that out! :) The man is/was a legend - a rugby hero and legend to millions - a man who left his indellible mark on RWC '95 - and in so doing - helped to forge all the good in this country that emulated from that event. Yes - he may have been wild off the pitch - enjoying a party or two - and playing with the ladies - SO WHAT?? So what?? To all who criticise his personal lifestyle choices - shame - you pathetic individuals - leave your cookies and milk alone - and GET A LIFE! Never judge another's path, nor their choices in Life. That's a Spiritual Truth. Unfortunately - there are still plenty of finger-pointing troglodytes out there with the EQ of a sea urchin - who simply cannot understand this simple truth.. Joost's choices are his - and his results/outcomes are his to own. His personal upsets with his ex and others - is his and their personal business - NOT for pathetic HYPOCRITES to scrutinise, and then condemn. Joost - you are the man, the legend, a true South African hero - Thank-You for all the memories and for everything! :) I wish you well, sir, on your road to recovery.. :)

  • Seducect - 2012-08-06 09:00

    I am so gatvol of Joost milking the media for attention. Get some balls & stop feeling sorry for yourself!. I have NO respect for you and your soon to be ex wife!

      karel.crous.3 - 2012-08-06 09:19

      So 'n bek kort jam seducect. Ek is ook siek vir albei van hulle se gemors. Hulle se hou jou ding uit gate uite dan bly jou gat uit dinge uit. So vat jou punch Josie Cowboys dont cry. Amor is net so 'n ou tert sy het hom destyds by sy eerste vrou afgevry en nou wil sy miss Almighty speel. Sy is 'n ou slaghuis wat alweer 'n nuwe blokman soek. Een wat in die kollig is want dit is hoekom sy Joos gevat het, om haar swak sangloopbaan aan die gang te hou.

      swart.madelein - 2012-08-06 11:59

      Agree!!!!!!!!!!!! Really!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

      janet.grant.1238 - 2012-08-06 15:33

      I hope he goes on milking it. This disease is evil. Bring more attention to it any which way you can. The disease leaves you with no dignity or respect for you own body. Pity the man

      leonpottie - 2012-08-06 17:09

      Give this man a Bells!!

  • marlin.samuels.1 - 2012-08-06 09:18

    keep ur private affairs out of d media, joost's been cheating her on many occassions now looking for sympathy. we all must die sumtime, accept ur condition and deal with it.

      Suzy Jones - 2015-01-04 05:51

      What an evil sounding person you are. I hope you never contract a terminal illness. Who are you, me or anyone else to judge Joost? Leave him alone.

  • CopperWoody - 2012-08-06 09:18


  • JohncarlosBiza - 2012-08-06 09:22

    Common is as common does

  • gvangreunen - 2012-08-06 09:23

    Is this the same devoted husband and loving father who snorted coke off a hooker whilst wearing holey jocks and being filmed ... mmm ... sympathy indeed!

  • faan.gerber - 2012-08-06 09:32

    We all make mistakes - the diffirence is that his name is Joost. If it was me, nobody would have cared two F's. Joost is in a bad place now and I cannot help feeling sorry for the ex Star. Sterkte boet - baie mense dink aan jou.

  • tammy.bithell.1 - 2012-08-06 09:44

    Amor is just plain greedy and heartless. goes to show love never existed from Amor in their marriage - it was pure lust and greed for fame and money

      jean.tredoux.5 - 2012-08-06 10:07

      So the fact that Joost cheated on her with another woman, using drugs and lying about it has nothing to do with her being 'heartless'... sometimes i really don't understand how you people argue!

      pagel.trivia - 2012-08-06 10:48

      And then lied to her after she asked him to be honest. I remember her commenting how she trusted him as she "could see the truth in his eyes". All in all this is just very sad - Joost screwing up, a glamour couple that was in love and now have reached this mud throwing stage, a brilliant athlete that gets this debilitating disease, what they are doing to their kids etc. It is always sad to see potential being wasted - I remember feeling the same about Hansie.

  • cliff.slabbert - 2012-08-06 09:48

    Don't judge someone just because they sin differently to you!

      chez.kri - 2012-08-06 12:05

      @Cliff. Well now; thats about the most accurate and well said thing I have read in these forums. I will remember and re-use your comment often.

      cliff.slabbert - 2012-08-06 23:19

      Thanks Chez, that is something someone pasted on facebook and I thought it so appropriate. God bless the author, I was just the messenger.

  • tammy.bithell.1 - 2012-08-06 09:48

    Goes to show how greedy and heartless Amor really is.. All she wanted in the marriage was fame and more money. Joost will forever be a living legend for his greatest success.

  • clivegoss - 2012-08-06 10:03


  • trbester - 2012-08-06 10:09

    Joost I am sorry you have to suffer...... but BOTH OF YOU GROW UP.......put all the energy you have left into your wonderful children.........grow up

  • delish7564 - 2012-08-06 10:10

    Despite the wrongs this man committed against his wife (I would find it very hard to forgive him if he was my husband) that does not make it acceptable to want him to die. He didn't murder or rape anyone, so why does he deserve this hatred from people. Be careful what you wish for.........what goes around, comes around!!!!!!

      amanda.vandenberg.758 - 2012-08-06 12:53

      Did she say she wants him to die?

      delish7564 - 2012-08-06 18:19

      @Amanda. I was referring to the people on this site mainly, however, he seems to think that too but that could just be the media stirring things....wouldn't be the first time :(

  • natascha.morton.7 - 2012-08-06 10:10

    yes and ..........

  • marie.hoon - 2012-08-06 10:16

    Just a pitty Joost could not identify the gold-digger for what she was before they married. Most people could do just that. She will not stop demanding until Joost dies, she already has everything he had and is even trying to keep his children away. What 'n pittiful woman she is.

  • monique.chevalier.104 - 2012-08-06 10:39

    They are well suited. He cheated on his first wife, she was the other woman and it was then okay for him to cheat . Now he cheated on her – shame? They both the same !! Just because he is a sports celebrity and some people respect his achievements in sports it doesn’t make him right and her wrong. They both wrong.

      thys.bester - 2012-08-07 13:15

      As ek reg onthou, was ou Kurt ook erens in die prentjie? Toe Joost hulle vang in 'n omhelsing was hy mos besig om haar te troos?...As ek reg onthou?

  • richard.zanner - 2012-08-06 11:00

    Can they please get divorced in private. So he had an affair, get over it, divorce him do what you like but just get on with it in private because Amor did her part in keeping this in the public. He is not the first man to have an affair and will not be the last. If you get cake at home you will probably not go looking for bread elsewhere. There are always two sides to the story but to keep dragging the public into this is plain childish.

  • jacqui.daanevanrensburg - 2012-08-06 11:21

    I wish these two people would just go away. Why they think they have to make us witness their bitterness towards each other is beyond me. I hope for his sake his health will improve.

  • swart.madelein - 2012-08-06 11:53

    Oh please! Anything to get into the papers! Really!!!!

  • marianne.germishuys - 2012-08-06 12:14

    Dit is so maklik om te praat...ek's baie jammer vir Joost...wie wil nou met 'n vonnis oor jou kop sit en wag om dood te gaan. Dit is baie erg dat Joost en Amor nie 'n middelgrond kan vind nie. Ek verstaan hoekom hy onderhoude toestaan, ek verstaan hoekom joernaliste altyd die onderwerp sal ophaal, en ek verstaan dat dit ons sal irriteer...meeste van alles verstaan ek dat ek nie in hul skoene wil staan nie - vir niks in die wereld nie!

  • alittleonthemadside - 2012-08-06 12:15

    I, too, would not give a flying u know what about a man would cheated on me & our kids with several women. who led me to believe we had a beautiful home and family. There's nothing worst then being used by someone. He can't even apologise. He was in socks sniffing coke with some chick while Amor was concerntrating on right things-her family, her career. He can't even apologise. He is not a gent and doesn't know what a real man is. She's not commenting because she is a lady. Joost is the one who always brings it up in the media. Amor is a far nicer person. Joost has always been an attention seeker. Get what u want from him, Amor!

      cherri.pye.5 - 2012-08-06 13:22

      A far nicer person? Please let's not forget that she was happily cheating with him when he was married to his first wife.

  • angela.langton.10 - 2012-08-06 12:25

    you know what, after all is said and done, is not pathetic that we as human being's feel we have the right to pass judgment on others. Joost is dying, and who knows what has gone down between him and Amore. I hope both of you find the peace and happiness you deserve, Joos and if you succumb to your disease I hope you dont suffer.

  • rudzani.mudau.545 - 2012-08-06 12:32

    she is an Italian woman ,what she did is an italian job ,once you date someone because of the status and so on that lead man into mental instability is because we dont listen to our true friends and start making new friends ,been old means that you have enough friends and making new friends is the biggest mistake we make ,he has been adviced to do right but choose to do his way ,man dont laugh at the down fall of fellow man and thats what we must do support joost and pray for his health and get better as well .friends for joost must be organised to support him mentaly.

      yolande.rwaai - 2012-08-06 17:59

      Say what now?!

  • ruan.lacock - 2012-08-06 12:38

    ....mans jag muis...en poppies jag die beursie....sad, but true !!

      crazyjourno - 2012-08-06 13:13

      Nie die poppies wat genoeg selfresoek en trots het nie. ;)

      riette.nothling - 2012-08-06 15:04

      ja dis waar, maar mens sou dink mans het genoeg verstand om te weet poppies soek net 1 ding...

  • jackie.m.dickson - 2012-08-06 12:39

    O comme on??! Mt heart beats lumpy custard! I thinks its to be expected....ex wives generally dont like their ex husbands and nor do ex husbands like their ex wives? Duh!! Get over yourself and stop wasting the time you have left looking for sympathy!!

  • jacqueline.j.jacobs - 2012-08-06 12:54

    she is a bitch. never liked her anyway

      koo.doyle - 2012-08-06 12:58

      I'm sure she'd be crushed :/

  • Louise Whittingstall Barnard - 2012-08-06 13:06

    Who the heck cares about these 2 non celebrities? Stop writing about them already! snooze fest!

  • musamuskid - 2012-08-06 13:06

    I know a Sangoma in Limpopo, Juju also consults ther

  • rosa.demelo - 2012-08-06 13:18

    Just remember everybody, just because you dying, doesn't mean that the people you hurt, now just have to forgive and forget...even if you ask for forgiveness when you dying, the hurt that you caused will still be there, all you get is pity!!!!!!! THINK BEFORE YOU HURT THE PEOPLE YOU LOVE.......

  • letesia.castelyn - 2012-08-06 13:22

    Three sides to every story : His story, her story and the truth. Really think of the kids, we have lives and don't want to hear this saga anymore, which has been forced down our throats from the beginning.

  • patricia.wright.1029 - 2012-08-06 13:29

    Amor and Joost before you carry on hurting each other by the hateful things you keep saying PLEASE think of your children. Remember it is you both who are being childish and want this divorce not your precious babies who you both profess to love. Regards Pat

      ina.cripps - 2012-08-06 15:31

      I couldn't agree more, Patricia. Can you imagine what it will do to these children when they grow up and hear (and understand) all the horrible things their parents are revealing about each other? Very bad form.

  • christopher.m.lowe - 2012-08-06 13:47

    How tawdry and cheap they both have become. This is 'celebrity life'??

  • fran.aphane - 2012-08-06 15:43

    Poor Joost, I think Amor should just ask for child support and let the guy go instead of dragging this long. Joost is also trying to get sympathy by saying this about Amor. How can someone you were married to want you to die? You didn't get thugs to hurt her like that Modimolle guy you cheated and I am sure there is forgiveness on such behavior? Please people just live a happy life now that you guys are not on good terms, don't die angry.

  • fanus.nel.3 - 2012-08-06 17:46

    Commen commen commen

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  • ana.d.simoes - 2012-08-06 19:24

    What a legacy he leaves behind for his children..."i bad mouthed your mom in public" - i wrote a tell all book about my career and indiscretions and drug abuse wow...lets face it i don't hear her playing the media.

  • LSsmilee6 - 2012-08-06 20:35

    He says......She says.......Yawn. Enough already! Please keep your affairs out of the media. People do not really care..

  • - 2012-08-06 23:34

    Aai n egskeiding is n lelike ding as die persoon nie vir jou bedoel is nie dan is sy nie bedoel vir jou nie!!Ek het n geleuntheid gehad toe Amor n paar dames in Port Elizabeth toegespreek het,die een oombelik huil sy dan praat sy so sterk en dan lag sy en dan huil sy.volgens my is Amor n plastiek mens want sy speel so baie toneel sy weet nie wat is haar ware gevoel nie.Sterkte aan Joos jy was een masiewe sportsman en ons mis jou baie sterkte in jou moeilike tyd.Glo net in die Here en alles sal beter wees .Sterkte vir jou!!!

  • damian.greyone - 2012-08-07 00:53

    Great rugby player but all this is just making me think less of him. Shut up and have a little pride last thing kids need while their father is dying is to hear all this cr@P

  • gwilym.howes - 2012-08-07 08:26

    News for you buddy. Amor is not the only one. You are just a sleezebag, and what you have coming is well deserved. Please, get on with it. We are all bored with your self-important musings.

  • sabiha.lockhat - 2012-08-07 09:13

    we all knw hansie lied cheated , but his wife never spoke bad abt him and moved on in life , ok we know joost did wrong by cheating with women- he didnt choose his disease , he hasnt contacted Aids-so why is Amor being so harsh , she used Joost for status and fame and now kicked him.

  • GregGow1234 - 2012-08-07 09:56

    Joost leave money for your kids but don't let that gold digger get any. Write it into your will now.

  • carol.jooste.1 - 2012-08-07 10:02

    STOP washing your dirty laundry in one is interested in your problems!!What kind of an example is this for your kids?? The news papers should also stop publishing this kind of crap.

  • richardgraham.philps - 2012-08-07 12:02

    If POMP you PAY say no more

  • klasie.kitshoff - 2012-08-07 12:28

    Vat 'n ander vrou!

  • lmapheto - 2012-08-07 15:31

    Joost my see western culture is the one that adopted one man one woman from a very sensitive part in the bible solely for economic reason and to control the population at the time (selfish but good for some reason)...some rich man maintained the mistress standards...Today other social norms and religious believes compels man to have one wife and be faithful (i strongly agree with this) So some man when they fall in love with other women they get confused because they have no refuge...the easiest solution is to divorce the one wife you have and get comfortable with the new flame (BIG MISTAKE)...i pray that you find your way out of this with good health (you not going to die) South Africa loves you and we still respect you as a sportsman. To all of you who are married and get confronted with temptations that leads to direct neglect to your family...don’t get confused, acknowledge the weakness, declare war against it, aspire to be a good husband (before fostering faithfulness) and ask for forgiveness and ask your God to give you strength to stick to your responsibilities...Amen

  • koos.grove - 2012-08-07 19:56

    Joost - you are a person playing in the public domain. If you want respect and simpathy keep your private live out of this domain.You have created enough damage to your personal live already - please do not destroy the little respect that your children might have for you with the type of statements that you are making. In the years to come your children will look back and see all the damage that you have done to their lives instead of remembering a father that was a hero in some peoples lives

  • Pixionamission - 2012-08-09 23:19

    I don't know what's worse, the story or the comments. I am flabbergasted at the sheer cruelty of people. There is three side to every story his/hers and what actually happened. Hopefully none of these holier than thou people experience this kind of pain!

  • daniel.bantjes - 2012-08-21 08:49

    I honestly.........don't care........ :)