Late actor Dumi Masilela’s single, Uphushiwe was played for the first time on national radio on Wednesday 22 August. Actress Simphiwe Ngema, wife to the late Dumi who was killed during a hijacking in 2017, took to social media to announce that the single was released and would be available on digital platforms from next week.
HOW DUMI WOULD FEEL
Speaking to Metro FM’s Fresh Breakfast, she said it felt so different hearing the song on radio when Dumi wasn’t there. “It feels so different that he is not here sharing this moment with us. I am here with his two best friends, Bongani and Thato and we know that if he was here he would probably be screaming and climbing the walls because he was just that energy. He was amazing,” she said.
LIVING HER TRUTH
When asked what kind of energy it takes to deal with being a young widow she responded by saying that she has done what she felt was comfortable. She has lived her life like she wanted to live it and didn’t care what anybody said. “Like I said at the funeral, this is not a normal situation. How does one prepare you to be a 27-year-old widow? So, for me it was living my truth. I had to live my truth,” she said.
STARTING TO DREAM AGAIN
She advised young widows to feel everything. “Feel everything. Let yourself feel. Allow the tears. If you don’t feel like doing anything, then don’t do anything. But at the same time don’t cry for too long as that will lead you to depression. For me, what took me out was hope. I had to start hoping again because after Dumi passed away everything came crumbling down for me, my dreams. I mean we dreamt together. So that means everything I had dreamt of was wiped out. I had to start dreaming again, start hoping again,” she said.
FINDING HERSELF AFTER LOSS
The actress said she had to remind herself who Simphiwe was before Dumi and that was hard for her to do. “My dad had to sit me down and said Simphiwe listen, I know. I know that this thing is difficult. I know this is hard but you need to remember who you are, who you were and remember your dreams,” she said.
NOSTALIGIA
When asked about a last memory of Dumi that makes her laugh even today she responded “I have a lot but one that stands out right now is that he was late for our wedding on the second day. So as we are driving in, he is not dressed and he is running to the house and I’m like but this guy and lucky enough a friend of mine took a video of him running to the house, so I think that was funny,” she chuckled. The actress confirmed that she will be back on our TV screens with a role on the SABC 3 soapie, Isidingo.
