Oscar and Reeva had 'heated arguments'

2013-06-04 07:59
Pretoria - Reeva Steenkamp's mother has revealed in a new documentary aired in the UK that her late daughter fought with her alleged murderer Oscar Pistorius "a lot".

June Steenkamp appeared in the Channel 5 programme Why Did Oscar Pistorius Kill Our Daughter? - which aired in the UK on Monday night - and expressed her anger and regret about not being able to protect her daughter, reports TimesLive.

She recalled a tense telephone conversation she had with the 29-year-old model, who was travelling in a car with the Paralympic athlete.

"She was afraid, she was so afraid. She phoned me and she said: 'Mummy I'm in the car with Oscar and he's driving like a lunatic.'

"I said: 'Will you just give him the phone'. She gave the phone to Oscar straight away. I said, 'Listen, if you hurt my baby in any way I will have you wiped out.'

"A week or so later she phoned me, we chatted about this and that, little girl things. I said: 'How's it going with Oscar?' She said that 'We've been fighting, we've been fighting a lot'."

Graphic crime scene photos

Pistorius is set to make a brief appearance in the Pretoria Magistrate's Court Room C on Tuesday on a charge of premeditated murder. Pistorius maintains that he shot and killed his girlfriend through a locked bathroom door at his luxury Silver Lakes home on Valentine's Day believing she was an intruder.

Local and international media had already flocked to the court by Tuesday morning to cover the Blade Runner's pre-trial hearing.

If found guilty of premeditated murder, Pistorius could face a life term in jail.

The case took a twist on Friday when graphic photos of the crime scene were leaked and published by Sky News in the UK. On Sunday night, Pistorius's uncle Arnold Pistorius said a leaked photograph, purportedly showing the scene where Steenkamp was shot dead, had "shaken" the family.

National police spokesperson Brigadier Phuti Setati said on Friday police could not comment on the photograph because they did not know how it came to be in Sky News's possession, reports Sapa.

"We don't want to be distracted by these deliberate tactics. All that we want to do is secure a conviction, so we are working throughout and investigating professionally," he said.

June Steenkamp said on the documentary that she and her family are "praying so hard" for their ordeal to be over.

Reeva Steenkamp's uncle, Mike, said on Monday that neither he nor his brother, Reeva's father Barry, would not be watching Tuesday's court proceedings.

"Tomorrow will bring whatever it will bring. We are just trying to live our lives. Our family is taking it very hard. Words cannot bring Reeva back, no matter how much we want that. We just have to, for now, let it be."


  • Asilox Max Fatyela - 2013-06-04 08:14

    Haisana ngumhlola!

  • Khutlang IgnatiusKay Words KiddyKay - 2013-06-04 08:20

    #frm cort... Now we can make our own conclusions without Oscar's tellings. We don't buy 'em false stories.

  • GB Garratt - 2013-06-04 08:20

    I am sure they can and should sue the gunhappy, happy clapper for wrongful death.

      Paige Turner - 2013-06-04 10:09

      She had every opportunity to walk away from the relationship --- just run, run, run, if she had any complaints about him. Why didn't she? She chose to stay (and complain to mommy about him). Why didn't mommy dear advise her to leave immediately? Perhaps they were both enthralled by the reflected glory of a famous athlete.

      Melanie Pienaar - 2013-06-04 10:36

      Funny how they are trying to deal with it by appearing on a TV show in the UK. Sensationalists!!!

      Stephen Michael - 2013-06-04 11:05

      So is it her fault paige?

      Alex Stamp - 2013-06-04 14:30

      @ Arne... Mmm yes, and then he shot her. Really? You're offering that as some sort of validation? 80% of the people on this planet cheat or get cheated on every day. You don't shoot someone for that, you simply leave if you can't live with it - kill them and it's plain bloody murder. Oscar has a reputation as a mean, spiteful and bad tempered individual and evidence suggests he treated many a girl like cr@p. I won't be surprised... well, if we don't see him on the track again...

      Theresa Vlietstra - 2013-06-05 09:40

      Whether she loved him or not is irrelevant. He shot her. End of story.

      Hannelie van Heerden - 2013-06-06 07:21

      @Paige Turner. I agree Paige. She could have walked away at any point. The media mentions that she had studied law and was a model, so surely she had prospects. It wasn't as if she chose to be with Oscar because she faced a bleak future - like so many women who stay with abusive partners. Perhaps her parents should take a moment and consider what comments like these could do to Reeva's reputation and even their own. What happened is a terrible tragedy, but now to make it worse, they are creating a situation where Reeva could be seen as having been a gold-digger. Allow her some dignity. Please.

  • Patricia Dewet - 2013-06-04 08:28

    Did the mother hear it herself?

      Lanfear Mierin - 2013-06-04 08:37

      What do you suggest? That Reeva was lying to her mother? If your daughter phones you and tells you that, will you believe her? You seem to be biased towards Pistorius.

      Louise Barnard - 2013-06-04 12:50

      I suggest that this is hearsay and I suggest that you can get pounds from a story like this! thay not gonna pay pounds to hear that she was happy!

  • Kamogelo Makomane - 2013-06-04 09:07

    Mxm boring case, just lock this scum bag n throw away da keys, he killed poor reeve n still remain arrogant

  • Obadia Kgopolo Segwape - 2013-06-04 09:15

    he was tired of being treated like a midget n he got angry that idiot

      Beverley Hibbert - 2013-06-04 10:34

      Seriously? What hole did you crawl out of? What an insensitive thing to say.

  • Linda Horsfield - 2013-06-04 09:26

    Reeva's parents are fortunate that she died at the hands of a celebrity and wasn't killed by a common criminal like thousands of South Africans every year. Otherwise they wouldn't be able to generate so much publicity in an attempt to benefit financially from her death......

      Sandra Rennie - 2013-06-04 11:24

      Linda what a disgusting thing to say ! Dying at the hands of a celebrity! My God how insensitive - you actually mean EX Celebrity ! In an attempt to benefit financially from her death ? How, did she have a life policy for her parents ?

      Louise Barnard - 2013-06-04 12:37

      exactly right? if she was killed by a common criminal nobody would care a bit, she would just be a statistic!! her parents are lucky that did not happen!!!

      Louise Barnard - 2013-06-04 12:41

      But Sandra is it inaccurate?

  • Dora Du Plessis - 2013-06-04 09:36

    And why did she not reveal this previously? They just went on about how Reeva had to pay their DSTV and help them financially. Makes you wonder. Seems she was only a source of income to them.

      Sandra Rennie - 2013-06-04 11:25

      Is that so wrong to look after your parents. My husband and I take care of my father in law financially. Pensioners cannot make ends meet these days. And indeed that just goes to show you she cared for their welfare !

      Louise Barnard - 2013-06-04 12:39

      yes and where is their proof of any of these accusations! this is hearsay at its best!!! show us the proof!!

      Madelein de Lange - 2013-06-04 14:44

      Louise, some would say the proof lay in a puddle of blood on the bathroom floor?

      DolceLucy - 2013-06-05 12:04

      Dora. She DID reveal this previously! Seems that you're struggling keeping up with all the reading.

  • Emma Strydom - 2013-06-04 10:05

    So why did Reeva stay in the relationship if she was so afraid of him, or was it his fame and fortune she was looking for? I wish her parents would stop all this, they are only looking for publicity.

      Shirley Stee - 2013-06-04 10:24

      I agree! This is just sensationalism at its best!!! You dont drive in your own car,at your own free will to spend the night with someone you fear!!!

      Louise Barnard - 2013-06-04 12:30

      I agree 100%!!!!! fame and fortune!!! and now they sell their story for pounds!!!!

      Mandla Nkunzie - 2013-06-04 12:31

      So in other words she deserved it, all men are just wasting their time supporting these initiatives of No violence against Women if women themself feel this way

      Madelein de Lange - 2013-06-04 14:47

      Emma, true, but how many woman out there are in abusive relationships? Go ask them why they don't just leave. You can also google the answer.

  • Beverley Hibbert - 2013-06-04 10:31

    Every couple have arguments, sometimes heated and sometimes not. And quite frankly, if you are not happy in the relationship or don't like these heated arguments, then why stay within that relationship. They actually need to stop printing things and having interviews. This man is being tried in the media and will NEVER get a fair trial. While I sympathise with BOTH families, justice needs to take it's natural course without all the hype and accusations being hurled back and forth. This trail could well go the way of OJ Simpson.

      GB Garratt - 2013-06-04 11:35

      Disagree. We have professional independent judges in the country and not juries. Sure there are parallels with OJ Simpson but Oscar, by his own admission, wrongfully killed somebody and he is going to pay some price one way or another. Many parents are helped financially by their children in old age. And like OJ Simpson, the parents has a damages claim against the killer.

      Louise Barnard - 2013-06-04 12:29

      I agree, i have heated arguments with my husband often, what does that prove, she knew him for 3 months, she could have left anytime as she hardly knew him really!! and why did her family do this doccie for the Brits? Pounds maybe?

      Johan Holtzhausen - 2013-06-04 13:46

      Yes Louise, for money, of course, what is your point? As you always point out so clearly about Oscar, we do not know all the facts (like why she didn't leave...yet, etc.). It is also NOT normal for couples to have HEATED arguments, whether it's common in your relationship or not.

      DolceLucy - 2013-06-05 12:25

      Louise, I don't think you should use your marriage as an example of normality. Having heated arguments often is not healthy.

      Angelique Viviers - 2013-06-25 08:56

      Yes every couple has arguments but most don't end up where someone gets killed...especially only after 3 months. It takes time for abusive men to show their real true colours and 3 months was a damn short time for her to really get to know him that way. Maybe she was trying to give it a go to see if he will change, but like I said, who really thinks that after 3 months of being with someone that they will kill you? you give it a go and trust people in the beginning....all of us do it....

  • Yasmien Ebrahim - 2013-06-04 11:45

    He must just be honest, say what truly happened. This will show that he has remorse for what he has done.....it has affected many lives and so he must acknowledge to start with. His family is rallying around him, Reeva's family is devasted....but he has all the answers. His lawyers can try all they want, but Oscar's guilt will eat him up!

      Emma Strydom - 2013-06-04 15:24

      uhu Jasmien, he is not getting a chance to state anything in court. The state is delaying this court case. No evidence, but they are hoping to find some. This man is guilty of a terrible accident. NOT MURDER

      Jaco Wium - 2013-06-04 23:32

      Emma, I know there are different rules on different planets, but on this one, it is generally agreed that if you fire 4 shots through a locked door, with the intent of hitting whoever is behind that door - even if you (claim to) don't know who that person is - then it is not considered an accident.

  • Mandla Nkunzie - 2013-06-04 12:07

    DA and other NGO's are hypocrites when it comes to Oscar they so quite in such a way u can hear a pin drops but when charges were drop against one of accused Anin Boysen killer they even question the integrity of NPA and when the actor was arrested for domestic violence outside the police was pack these NGO's protesting but u will hardly see them in this case. It makes u wonder whether all these people who sympathize with Oscar are they not the same people who seems so holy and knows too about human rights but forget about Reeva rights to LIFE.

  • Craig Dennis - 2013-06-04 12:31

    Nothing we can say can bring her back but she really should have taken leave of his company. Why stay if you fight all the time?

  • Thobele Teasoul Nzama - 2013-06-04 12:54

    @National police spokesperson, Brigadier Phuti Setati's comment: "...All that we want to do is secure a conviction..." meaning the outcome of this case had already been premeditated. Talk about hypocrisy!

      Shelle Malan - 2013-06-04 15:17

      No Thobele, the NPA is simply following procedure....if they didn't at least attempt to secure a conviction, Pistorius would simply walk away from this and every single Tom, Dick, Harry and Milly would be able to kill freely whoever, whenever and simply cite, "Oooh I was afraid and thought it was a burglar.....!!" Let's see what the future brings - personally I believe that self-preservation and money will ensure Pistorius walks a free man and the truth will never reach light of day. Be that as it may.

      Belinda Oberholster - 2013-06-04 18:02

      Great thinking Thobele, absolutely right!

  • Brenda Timm Morkel - 2013-06-04 14:11

    @ Claudia. 100% correct. No one knows what happened. Judging him before his trial....

  • Anton Anton - 2013-06-04 15:13

    How does the Abba song goes Money, money, money its a rich mans world

  • Emma Strydom - 2013-06-04 15:22

    Abusive relationship...3 months on...OH Come on. She could have walked away from it. Dont come and tell me this was an abusive relationship..not a chance. I am against abuse against women but this is definitely not the same scenario. PUBLICITY ..LIES SELL NEWSPAPERS

      Skinderbekkie van Mosselbaai - 2013-06-04 22:02

      Seems abusive if she ends up dead on the toilet floor after being shot by him. Did he pull the trigger by accident? How many times? He intended on killing someone. He is a murderer.

      Stephne Mundel - 2013-06-05 20:38

      Ai Emma wake up who are you trying to impress. Are you one of oscars girl's

  • Hugh Robinson - 2013-06-04 15:23

    talk about trial by media, The steekamps are selling their sob story. The chance of the whole thing being twisted is good. The parents appeared not insisted their dausghter to break up with Oscar. If they really thought there was a problem they would have advised such. wELLK AT LEAST THEY WILL NOT BE CALLED AS WITNESSES.

  • Magebs Cweba - 2013-06-04 15:23

    when u Love someone its not east to walk away, you only pray that they stop doing you wrong.... this was love, i know how s he felt

  • Candy Bulumko Mvumvu - 2013-06-04 15:47

    May the peace of God be with the family of Reeva so that they may go on with their lives, I for one do not believe that Oscar killed her intentionally, it is what they call in Xhosa Kwaba Yimini Yelishwa

  • Caine Abel - 2013-06-04 16:38

    His legal team will drag this and milk him dry in the process and then........... hopefully........ drop his ass him when there is no more funds

  • Louisa Colquhoun - 2013-06-04 17:02

    This unholy mess comes down to one thing...... HE SHOT HER SEVERAL TIMES. Blah blah blah to the rest of it........ He is tyring to use his disability, his crocodile tears..... He must pay.... The full price. Who cares whether they argued...... He shot her..... He has an aggressive history..... He pulled the trigger and he must now suffer the consequences of his actions......... preferably in a cell somewhere.... sharing.... quiet and not using the media or his rather unfortunate family..... to get out of it.... Just quietly disappear is appropriate.... Yet another sportsman with an ego bigger than necessary. Go quietly Sir....... I am one of those embarrassed to have supported you and cheered you on...... GO AWAY now where you belong.

      Stephne Mundel - 2013-06-05 20:42

      Louisa I like your attitude. we also supported, but it is time to go Buy Buy

  • Ricky Singh - 2013-06-04 20:27

    So as this sad and tragic story goes,its looks like Oscar was a hothead so the shooting might have been done in one moment of sheer madness,I am alleging.Question: Did he check if Reeva was next to him and did he make an attempt to find her.He found her alright and the rest is now a Shakespearian Tragedy.

  • Richardnealejohn Neale Underwood - 2013-06-05 00:19

    cLAUDINE YOU ARE A FRUITCAKE ON THREE WHEELS ,FLYING ON INSTRUMENTS. Are you sure the blood in the picture wzas Reeva's , Could be pistol Notorious Blade' s piles came unstuck when he checked what he 'd got up to after his looney tunes ?

  • Richardnealejohn Neale Underwood - 2013-06-05 00:52

    Caudine Ciotovich foo the noo , after shouting you start talking in tongues have you ever taken yourself to be checked over?

  • Quota Domino - 2013-06-05 08:48

    really... reeva's mom told oscar that she would get him wiped out??? and Oscar is on trial?? crazy witch!

      Emma Strydom - 2013-06-05 09:52

      Not crazy but vindictive and greedy. You dont sell your daughter's story to the highest bidder. Look at the photos in PE when they threw her ashes in the sea? What a spectacle. It is gross. I am not saying it is true, but the mother maketh me think twice about Reeva's intention with Oscar. Is it not all about the money?

  • Leendert Stolk - 2013-06-05 11:06

    There is faaaar to much publicity around what should have been testimony, so there's little chance Oscar will do any time, even if 'guilty'.

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  • Troy Fabian Triegaardt - 2013-06-06 10:13

    MURDERER !!!!

      Stephne Mundel - 2013-06-08 09:16

      yeap, murderer. lock him up

  • Angelique Viviers - 2013-06-25 09:02

    Lets say that Oscar did think that it was an intruder...law states that you can not shoot at an intruder before the intruder places your life in danger, in short, the intruder has to stab or fire a gun at you first before you may stab or shoot back. If indeed he did kill an intruder that night, he would still have been in jail for murder...it happens all the time.

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