Common reveals he was molested by a male family friend as a child
Common (PHOTO: Getty Images/Gallo Images)
has revealed for the first time that he was molested when he was child by a
close family friend, Essence
his recently released autobiography, Let Love Have The Last Word, the rapper – real name Lonnie
Rashid Lynn – recalled how the memories came flooding back when he was reading
a script for the 2018 movie The Tale, which deals with childhood sexual abuse.
one day, while talking through the script with Laura [Dern], old memories
surprisingly flashed in my mind,” Common writes. “I said to Laura, ‘I think I
was abused’. Right there, it all came back to my mind as if someone had
suddenly inserted deleted scenes into that little movie in my head, scenes that
I hadn’t remembered or thought about before, scenes I could’ve even remember
further revealed the family member who molested him was a man named Brandon and
the abuse happened during a sleepover at a friend’s home.
kept saying, ‘It’s okay, it’s okay’, as he pulled down my shorts and molested
me. Thinking back, I should’ve gotten up from the bed and ran out of the room
but I felt a deep and sudden shame for what happened, and for what he kept
trying to make happen as I had brought it all on myself.”
about why he choose to open up about the abuse, Common says it’s because he hopes
to encourage others to feel safe and to heal.
telling what I feel and the experiences that I’ve had and ways that I dealt
with it and I want people to know that it’s a safe place to be able to talk
about things you go through,” he said.
something I know a lot of people experience, especially black young men and
women have experienced it,” he added. “… and a lot of people are afraid to talk
about it. And the only way we stop the cycle is to talk about it so that’s why
I chose to say something about it.”