Minnie Dlamini on mourning her brother’s death now during lockdown: “Having work to distract me was the biggest blessing”
Minnie Dlamini (PHOTO: Gallo Images)
It’s been six months since Minnie Dlamini-Jones
her brother, Khosini to a ruptured brain aneurysm – and the TV personality
is still learning to come to terms with his passing.
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Dlamini's brother Khosini (29) dies
In a heartbreaking tweet which she posted
on Monday, Minnie revealed that she had been using work to distract herself
from mourning Khosini’s death and that the lockdown has forced her to.
“Having work to distract me was the biggest
blessing but you can't run away from your problems forever. This Lockdown has
given me too much time to think especially about losing my brother...and I'm
not coping.The pain is unbearable! I don't know what to do, kubuhlungu ,” she
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Dlamini shares how she’s dealing with the loss of her younger brother
This is not the first time Minnie has
expressed her difficulty of grieving her younger brother. In October, the Home
Ground presenter revealed that she was unable to focus on the positive
after his death.
“I'm trying to focus on the positive but I
won't lie I'm struggling,” se wrote.
Speaking to Huffpost,
professional psychologist and motivational writer, Michelle Roya Rad said learning
to cope is essential to be able to bounce back from the loss of a loved one.
Here are 5 steps one could follow to deal with grief.
Acknowledge and accept the
feelings – according to Roya Rad, avoiding,
suppressing or repressing these feelings will only make them feel more
uncomfortable in the future if not processed at the right time.
Be proactive in filling up
the void within - When ready and within a
reasonable time frame that you set for yourself, you have to find ways to fill
up this gap with something positive that makes you feel good.
Learn to grow from the loss
Replace the negative
feelings with positive ones
Start evaluating your faith
– Having a value system that brings about a sense
of reassurance and trust in life and in something bigger than oneself can help
one bounce back from a sad situation. This could be done through meditation,
prayers, relaxation, quiet time or self-reflection.