Masechaba Ndlovu on her spiritual calling, divorce and finding love again
Masechaba Ndlovu (DRUM)
Presenter Masechaba Ndlovu opens up about
hosting a hit show, her spiritual calling and finding love again after the end
of her marriage.
She knows how to get the nation talking. As
former co-host of Metro FM’s drivetime show Masechaba Ndlovu has taken the lid
off some of the most controversial topics and recently, the popular broadcaster
is got ordinary South Africans to spill their darkest secrets on the second
season of BET’s The Big Secret.
think people find it easy to open up to me because of my aura and my gift,” Masechaba
Coming from a family of traditional healers
gives her an edge, she believes.
“I come from a spiritual family where we
appease our spiritual guides. I’m very rooted spiritually and proud of my
heritage. I believe in God and my ancestors. “I am a healer myself and people
gravitate towards me.”
The media personality sparked rumours she
had accepted a calling to become a sangoma when she posted pictures of herself
in traditional wear earlier this year, but she hasn’t performed Ukuthwasa
(sangoma training). The clothes she was pictured in were revealed to her in
didn’t even know the name of the cloth, but after it was shown to me in my
dreams I went to a store that sells traditional clothes and I pointed it out,”
“No one can tell me what to do with my
calling,” she adds. “I have direct communication with my ancestors who show me exactly
what to do. My visions are as clear as day. When I phahla (pray to the ancestors)
or do a traditional ceremony, all those things are guided – I don’t choose for
Her gift is to heal people, she says.
“That’s why I do the work I do. Even when people don’t know me from a bar of soap
they have a great level of trust in me.”
It’s also why everyone from celebrities to
strangers confide in her. “But now I encourage people to take their power back and
take ownership of their secrets. I know sometimes people are afraid to take
responsibility for their own lives or to break out of whatever is eating them
up and they think it’s easier if I drag [the secrets] out,” Masechaba says.
“But I’d never advocate for that.”
She caused a social media storm last year
when she confronted Babes Wodumo with allegations the singer’s boyfriend and
record boss, Mampintsha, had been abusing her.
Later Masechaba revealed to Real Talk host
Azania Mosaka she was approached by Babes and her then manager, Keke Mokoena, to
help Babes (24) get out of the abusive relationship.
Masechaba told Azania she’d acted out of
concern when she confronted the singer about the alleged abuse on air. “It went
against the code of conduct of broadcasting,” she said.
“In that moment not only did I break the
rules, I basically threw my entire career under the bus by trying to protect a
young lady. “I removed my professional cap and I stopped being a broadcaster –
I became human. I became a woman.”
She faced public backlash but Masechaba
tells us there’s more to the story than meets the eye.
“One day Babes will tell the story herself
– from all sides.”
She doesn’t want to dredge up the past, but
she is willing to talk about her separation from husband Vusi Ndlovu. Masechaba
shocked fans when she announced her split from the businessman on social media
“I’ve taken the very painful decision of
separating from my husband, the love of my life,” she wrote.
“Sometimes in life, the best thing you can
do is the hardest thing you’ve ever done. We will always remain friends and
fantastic parents to our children.”
It wasn’t easy to lay her soul bare but
Masechaba believes sharing her experiences heals her and helps others.
“Sometimes I must remind myself not
everyone is like me,” she says.
“I’m not afraid to talk about anything. The
truth sometimes rattles people’s cages and makes them uncomfortable. I couldn’t
be bothered if it comes with criticism – there’s healing in being real and
Her only concern at the time was how her children
would take the news.
“In our generation, parents hid everything
from us without knowing kids are actually intelligent, they see everything and
pick up energies.”
Not one to sweep things under the rug, Masechaba
broke it to them head-on.
“Separation isn’t easy, but it was only
fair I tell them the truth. I sat them down and had a child-appropriate
conversation. “They cried, I cried, we held each other, and we hugged it out.
Afterwards we got some ice cream and I told them they can ask me anything.”
She also informed the children’s school,
which has offered counselling should they need it. She’s kept her word and
remains friends with Vusi, but Masechaba reveals she’s moved on.
“I’ve found love again,” she beams.
Masechaba, dressed in a bandage dress with
high heels, definitely looks like a woman in love and is practically glowing. She
serves a light breakfast to the man who’s accompanied her to our interview.
Pitso Maleka is a close friend she’s gone into
business with, she says, preferring not to elaborate on their relationship. Masechaba
refers to him as Ntate (Mr) Maleka when they speak, respectfully looking
down and bending her knees before she continues with our shoot.
She loves how the man in her life makes her
feel. “I love to hear I’m beautiful. I love touch, I love gifts and to give gifts,”
“I’m traditional in my relationships so I
believe men should lead in the relationship. I’m a leader, but a man is the head
of the home and the provider and it feels good to feel like a woman.”